“Stop gathering “kindling” — those resentments you start to pile up when you’re having a bad day. Once you have enough kindling, a firestorm is inevitable. Instead, stop, take responsibility for your own mood, give yourself what you need to feel better, and shift yourself to a happier place.”
I love this quote, number 4 of Laura Markham’s 10 Steps to Stop Yelling. It applies to all of our relationships, but is so important with our kids. When we focus on being empathic with our kids we teach them to manage their emotions. Our goal should not be to make our children perfect, our goal should be to teach our children to choose good behavior.
More from Dr. Markham here: